As a Caregiver, I find that there are a lot of times when I simply don’t want to talk. And that could be for a variety of reasons.
First of all, there is absolutely nothing else going on in my world EXCEPT Caregiving. And Caregiving is NOT my favorite topic. Therefore, sometimes I don’t talk because I don’t want to talk about Caregiving.
Other times I don’t talk because I don’t have the energy, inclination or motivation to listen to what’s going on in the world. My world revolves around Caregiving.
I don’t talk because I know that no one really understands except another Caregiver. And I have zero interest in trading war stories with another Caregiver. Even if, I can totally relate and comprehend what another Caregiver may be saying, I don’t want to be in a position to “one up” the other Caregiving. Because that’s just sad. And I really don’t want to discuss Caregiving woes.
Sometimes I don’t talk because I don’t have anything interesting to say. And if it doesn’t interest me, how can it hold someone else’s attention.
As her Caregiver, I don’t have many opportunities where I am not engaged in a lively discussion with my Mother; and so sometimes, I just want to be quiet.
Often times I don’t talk because, I have always found that listening and observing the situation at hand, is much more effective than talking.
Sometimes I don’t talk because I am well aware of the reality that no one is actually listening. And if they are listening, they are simply waiting for me to stop talking in order to let them speak.
I have learned that it’s easier to listen if you are NOT talking.
And I am very good at listening. I listen to Dr. Doolittle and the other medical professionals which is how I know that in general, they don’t have a clue what it is like to be a Caregiver. And I mean Caregiver in the true sense of the word–not being a member of a professional that is supposedly in the Caregiving Industry. And so, I spend a great deal of time listening to Dr. Doolittle and others while they are talking–saying much ado about nothing.
In general, I like to be understood. And to that end, I say what I mean, and I mean what I say. In my opinion that is the only time that one should talk.
Sometimes I don’t talk because I just want to SCREAM!
However, as a Caregiver, more times than not, I simply don’t want to talk.
And so, I write…
RUN DMC – “YOU TALK TO MUCH”
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